Ep. 20: The intimacy algorithm: How tech shapes our sex lives and relationships
with Chandler Rogers, co-founder and CEO of Relay
This episode touches on a topic that affects tens of millions of us: digital addiction. Whether it's constant doom-scrolling, binge-watching, or indulging in habits like pornography, digital addiction can take on many forms. And while we may rely on our phones for a quick hit of connection or relief, we’re often left feeling worse.
My guest Chandler Rogers, the co-founder and CEO of the app Relay, is re-imagining addiction recovery through digital peer-to-peer support. Chandler’s story begins with his own struggle around pornography, but widens to something much bigger…A digital epidemic of isolation and compulsive habits. We dive into how overcoming addiction begins with confronting the deeper emotional pain at their root, and why human connection and accountability to other people may be the path to successful recovery. And tech that enables this? That’s a powerful use case.
Topics Covered:
What is digital addiction and how does the Relay app address the shame and pain underneath?
How has pornography shaped expectations in relationships?
Is AI in pornography impacting intimacy for addicts? How can tech enable healing by building human connection?
About Chandler Rogers:
Chandler Rogers is the CEO & co-founder of Relay, a startup tackling one of the most common yet hidden addictions in modern society—pornography. After years of feeling stuck in the cycle, Chandler built Relay to bring connection, structure, and hope to thousands looking for healthier ways to navigate stress, shame, and emotional pain. His work explores the broader patterns of behavioral escapism that impact intimacy, trust, and connection in relationships. He lives in Salt Lake City, Utah with his wife and 18-month-old son.